Friday, February 3, 2012

Good news. Sex is safe for most heart patients!

A recent report released by the American Heart Association says if you're healthy enough to walk up two flights of stairs without chest pain or gasping for breath, then you can have a love life. 

The report also says that sex is something that doctors should discuss with all heart patients - yet few do because they're uncomfortable talking about it of they lack information.


Are you a health professional working with older adults or heart patients? We can help you build your comfort level in supporting their sexuality! Check out our upcoming workshop:

  
Supporting Sexuality with Older Adults
Designed for those working with older adults, you will increase your confidence and comfort talking with clients about sexuality. Receive practical suggestions, tips and resources to start talking about sexual health and advocating for sexual wellbeing with your older adult clients.

When:        Wed, Feb 15, 2012;  9:00 am - 12:00 pm
Where:      Calgary Sexual Health Centre, #304, 301-14 St NE
Fee:           $50.00 per person, including workshop materials




To register:
Contact Valerie Barr at 403.283.5580 ext. 317 or 
vbarr@calgarysexualhealth.ca.



Please note:  Level 'A' Alberta Social Work Continuing Education Credits are available for attendance at these workshops via a partnership with the Calgary Counselling Centre.  General public are also welcome to attend.

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Allies

"Attitudes about interspecies communication are the primary difference between western and indigenous philosophies. Even the most progressive western philosophers still generally believe that listening to the land is a metaphor. It's not a metaphor. It's how the world is."

-- Jeanette Armstrong quoted by Derrick Jensen in A Language Older Than Words

What does it mean to call a plant an ally?

As a poet and a witch, I believe that words used with precision have great power to shape someone's experience of the world.

The word "ally" comes from the Old French, "alier," meaning "to join in marriage." Originally a verb, the word was first used as a noun in the 14th century, meaning "kin."

It speaks of intimacy, tenderness, and trust.

A deep knowing.

It begins with coming to know a plant on its own terms.

Getting down on the ground and sitting with the plant. Coming back to it again and again.

Coming to know the way the light shines on the plant at different times of day. The scent of the soil where it grows. The way the air tastes around the plant.

Coming to know the body of the plant the way you would come to know the body of a lover. Knowing the feeling of its leaves and petals against your skin. Coming to love the ways it curves toward the sun.

And getting quiet enough to notice what he plant stirs in you. The subtle sensations in your body. The memories, emotions, images, scents, and snatches of music that come to you. The ways your dreams change.

Like a lover or a dear friend, a plant will teach you things you didn't know about yourself, new ways of being in your own body, new ways of being in the world.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that what you are learning and experiencing is all in your head -- or of thinking that to think of a plant in the same terms you would use to describe a beloved is to lie and think and speak in metaphor. If you treat any of this as a metaphor you will miss out on the chance to experience this other being in all of its magnificence -- and to see your own beauty and power from the perspective of the plant.

But when coming to know a plant truly mirrors in every way the process of falling in love, everything changes.

The idea of the world as sacred and alive opens into the experience of a world in which another consciousness embodied in a wildly different form from your own can speak directly to your heart.

The utilitarian view of the plant falls away. The answer to the question "What is Skunk Cabbage good for?" shifts from "Skunk Cabbage is good for calming spasms and clearing fluid from the lungs" to "Skunk Cabbage is good for setting roots deep in the mud, and melting its way through the ice to blossom forth in a gorgeous purple flower." Or "Skunk Cabbage is good for being Skunk Cabbage."

And the quality of the medicine and magic you work with the plant changes as well -- the plant goes from being an inert substance chosen according to memorized sets of indications and properties and correspondences to being an active participant in a shared working. New ways of working with the plant will emerge from your relationship.

And the relationship will demand of you consistency and honor. You will find yourself compelled to keep commitments you've made to spending time with the plant. And your respect for the plant will grow from an intellectual belief in the importance of avoiding overharvesting to a deep personal investment in seeing the plant flourish and defending the places it calls home.

Its not a path for the faint of heart. Like any intimate relationship, a true alliance with a plant will make you look at aspects of your life, patterns of thought and feeling and action that you would rather ignore. And unbound by human etiquette, plants, like gods, will not change the subject or gloss things over with niceties and half truths.

To deeply met and be deeply met by a consciousness that exists so far outside the ideas and beliefs and stories and ideologies and hang-ups of our culture is to be seduced into wandering out through a gap in the crumbling wall around our civilization, into the borderlands where the lines carefully drawn and habitually held between humanness and wildness begin to dissolve.

It is these borderlands where the greatest healing, the strongest magic, the deepest transformation occur.

Are you ready to be transformed?

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If you would like to follow these threads further, consider joining me for his course:

TALKING WITH THE PLANTS -- AN ONLINE COURSE WITH SEAN DONAHUE

APRIL 15 - SEPTEMBER 15

$300 if paid in full by March 1 -- $500 if paid after March 1

Plants are our ancestors and our relations -- and they have powerful medicine, magic, and wisdom to share with us.

Whether you are a newcomer to the worlds of herbalism, an herbalist looking to deepen the spiritual and intuitive elements of your work, or a magical practitioner looking to work more closely with green allies, this course will help you deepen your relationships with the plants growing around you.

Over the course of this journey you will learn simple practices to assist you in:

-- Respecting and honoring wild plants

-- Working with the heart as an organ of perception to communicate directly with plants

-- Divining magic and medicine from the forms of plants: an intuitive approach to the doctrine of signatures

-- What ecology teaches us about the medicine and magic of each plant

-- Dreaming with plants

-- Lunar cycles and plant medicine and magic

-- Working with a plant ally to reshape your life in alignment with your Will

Along the way you will have the support of a community of people engaging with plants in similar ways, and my personal guidance.

Thinking of coming along? E-mail me at seandonahuepoet@gmail.com

Suggested texts:

The Secret Teachings of Plants by Stephen Harrod Buhner

a field guide to the plants of your region

Monday, January 9, 2012

40th Anniversary celebrations kick off with "Miss Representation" screening

Help us kick off our 40th Anniversary celebrations!

Join us at the Globe Cinema on Jan 18 to watch the acclaimed film, Miss Representation, and then enjoy our panel discussion to follow.  Proceeds to support CSHC.





Phone and order your tickets today at (403) 283-5580, ext. 316.  Tickets will also be available at the door.

For more info about the acclaimed film "Miss Representation" and to watch the trailer, visit http://www.missrepresentation.org/the-film/


Friday, December 16, 2011

Tips to Protect Yourself from STIs

Even with the best intentions, people can still get Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)from their partner. But the more informed you are, the easier it is to protect yourself and your partner from STIs. 

Here are some tips to help you avoid STIs. Consider which will work for you:
  • always use barriers like condoms or dental dams
  • choose safer sexual activities like kissing, touching and massaging
  • avoid sex altogether
  • reduce the number of partners you have sex with
  • get tested regularly
  • ask your partner if they’ve been tested or to come get tested with you
  • know how to use condoms effectively
  • talk to your partner about safer sex (protection, testing, STI history)
  • avoid sharing needles
  • avoid getting unprofessional tattoos or piercings

STIs can have different effects depending on the person and which STI it is. And STIs can even be present but show NO SYMPTOMS. They only way to really know if you have an STI is to get tested. 

For information on STIs and where to get tested in Calgary, visit us at http://www.calgarysexualhealth.ca/the_basics_about_stis.html.

And to see what its like to go for STI testing, view our "How to Be a SexPert" podcast:



 

Friday, December 9, 2011

How to Talk with your Child about Sexuality

We live in a very sexual world.  There are messages about sex all around us - on the Internet, TV, radio.  People talk about it in locker rooms, at the mall, and in our own homes. And our kids hear it all.

But our kids don't get that much useful information from all this talk. 

We want our kids to have healthy and rewarding lives.  Teaching them about sex is an important aspect of helping them live a healthy life.  But for many of us its hard to talk about sex - especially with our own children. 

At the CHSC, we have many resources and workshops that can help you feel more comfortable with talking to your kids about sex.  And in the meantime, here are a few tips:

1. Start early.  Its best to begin as soon as they're born.  Start with basic knowledge such as learning the proper names of their body parts. Knowing their body and being comfortable talking about their body is an important first step.

2. All babies anc children explore their bodies. This is a natural and normal part of development. If we yell at them or slap their hands, they'll do it anyway - but they'll feel guilty about it. And they may learn to not trust us later in life when they're looking for guidance about other things.

3. When your 3-year-old asks "Where do babies come from?", you can keep your answers simple for now.  You could say something like "Babies grow in a special place inside the mother."  As the years, pass, you can add other details.

4. Kids aged 5 - 7 may be shy about asking questions, but they likely still have them! Find opportunities to ask them questions - maybe its asking them what they think about something you see on TV, or talking about a family friend who is pregnant. Have books on hand that you can read together to help you talk about sex.

5. Most preteens aged 8 - 12 are ready to know about sex and reproduction. They need to know about the signs of puberty and the changes that will happen to their bodies as they grow up. And they need to know how to keep themselves healthy and safe.  Keep the conversations going - find moments to spend time alone with them and talk.  Get books and pamphlets that you can read together, or that they can read on their own and then talk with you after.

6. Teens aged 13 - 18 need to learn how to say "no" and to understand what "safer sex" is. They need to know how to have relationships with other people without getting hurt, or without hurting other people.  You could ask questions such as "Are you being pressured to have sex?", "Do you know how to protect yourself from pregnancy and infections?", "How will you tell them what your limits are?".

For more help with talking to your kids about sex, give us a call at 403-283-5580 or visit us online at http://www.calgarysexualhealth.ca/what_do_i_say.html.


And for a light-hearted look at having "The Talk", check out this hilarious video of Julia Sweeney describing one such experience with her 8 year old daughter.

Friday, November 18, 2011

Pam Krause, Executive Director, reflects on the year so far

Each year, we write to supporters of the Calgary Sexual Health Centre to let you know about the great work going on here. 

When I reflect at the end of each year on what we’ve managed to achieve, I’m amazed. I’m equally amazed at how the need for our work continues to change and grow. Our ability to meet this continued demand in our community is dependent on the support of people like you. 

Just some ways we answered our community’s needs last year in 2010 included:

24,415 Junior and Senior High School students experienced our comprehensive sexual health education program
76 Junior High boys took part in our WiseGuyz program, developed to specifically meet their unique needs
1989 professionals participated in workshops put on by our Training Centre and took their acquired skills back to countless clients
1,924 marginalized youth got the information they needed on sexual and reproductive health
307 individual clients received counselling on a variety of sexual health issues

We truly reach a staggering amount of people with a small but dedicated team of professionals. In a time where we see public funding shrinking for essential organizations like ours, we really do rely on support from the community to help us continue to provide these outstanding services.

We thank you all for your continued support to help us inform, educate, and advocate for our community’s sexual health needs. 
 

Friday, October 21, 2011

Older Adults and Sexuality...Digital Stories now available on DVD

From the beginning of this work, we knew that sexuality and older adults was a topic few felt comfortable addressing.

The Seniors a GOGO project tackled this challenge by developing and performing the “Viva Vintage Monologues”, a series of stories that explore sexuality in the later years. The monologues focus on the depth of sexuality in a humorous, warm and thoughtful way.


The Seniors a GOGO digital stories
can be viewed on our Facebook page.

This led to very successful performances by the Seniors a GOGO theatre troupe at public libraries, and other venues throughout Calgary.  

Members of the Seniors a GOGO theatre troupe continue to be agency volunteers and still perform for live audiences.

The Viva Vintage Monologues were also made into digital stories to enable us to use them in future programs and training.


We are now selling a curriculum package for service providers that includes a DVD of the digital stories. We also continue to offer ongoing training to students and professionals who work with older adults.

To request a curriculum package or for information about our training options, please contact us at 403-283-5580 or visit us at http://www.calgarysexualhealth.ca/.