Friday, March 2, 2012

Celebrating 40 years of Audacity

This year marks the 40th anniversary of our organization’s legacy of serving the Calgary community with comprehensive, non-judgmental sexual health information. Although our organization was officially registered on June 27, 1972, we are taking the opportunity to mark this milestone over the entire year ahead.
We began as a grassroots volunteer organization and have been providing comprehensive sexuality education and counselling to the Calgary community since 1972. In the early 70’s, our work focused on improving access to birth control and increasing support for women facing unplanned pregnancies. Since that time, we have evolved to include a range of services and programs to ensure that individuals are able to make informed, positive choices about their sexual and reproductive health.
We believe that healthy sexuality is more than the absence of disease or unintended pregnancies; it also encompasses the positive aspects of relationships and sexuality. Our programs and services for families, youth, adults and seniors reflect our awareness of the holistic nature of sexual health and its impact across the life span.
At the CSHC, we continue to ensure that women and men have access to comprehensive sexual health information.  Sexuality still remains a taboo subject for many, STI rates are rising, and Canadians continually need to actively defend and advocate for their reproductive rights.
We still have much work to do, and we know that we will continue to have the community’s support behind us.
We have had many supporters and advocates in our community in the past 40 years, and we hope to celebrate and acknowledge them this anniversary year.

ALUMNI CELEBRATION
This month, we are hosting a gathering of our past and current Board Members and Staff. Please join us to sip some bubbly, share our stories and celebrate 40 years of audacity!
Thursday, March 29th, 2012
5pm – 7pm
Please RSVP to Sylvia at 403-283-5580 ext 316 or skessel@calgarysexualhealth.ca

Monday, February 13, 2012

Sexting: What you need to know!

Thinking of sending your valentine a sexy text? 

A recent study in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality provides some insight into the issue of sexting - a combination of "sex" and "texting" that refers to the sending of sexually related text or images from one mobile phone to another.

While we assume that the sender wants the image to be private, statistics reveal that this is not always respected. 




17% of those who had received a sext reported that they had sent it on to one or more other people (Associated Press / MTV 2009 survey)

25% of teen girls and 33% of teen boys reported that they had seen nude or semi-nude sexts that were intended for someone else (NCPTUP / Cosmogirl.com 2008 survey)

Before hitting "send", here are some things to consider:
  • Most relationships don't last forever. In many cases where nude photos have been shared with others, it was an ex-partner who did the sending!
  • Once your send / post something in cyberspace, you lose control of it forever. There is no way to fully delete it.
  • There can be unexpected consequences if the images are eventually seen by family, friends, people who don't like you, or even future employers.
  • When the image involves someone under 18, sexting may violate Canada's child pornography laws.

Friday, February 3, 2012

Good news. Sex is safe for most heart patients!

A recent report released by the American Heart Association says if you're healthy enough to walk up two flights of stairs without chest pain or gasping for breath, then you can have a love life. 

The report also says that sex is something that doctors should discuss with all heart patients - yet few do because they're uncomfortable talking about it of they lack information.


Are you a health professional working with older adults or heart patients? We can help you build your comfort level in supporting their sexuality! Check out our upcoming workshop:

  
Supporting Sexuality with Older Adults
Designed for those working with older adults, you will increase your confidence and comfort talking with clients about sexuality. Receive practical suggestions, tips and resources to start talking about sexual health and advocating for sexual wellbeing with your older adult clients.

When:        Wed, Feb 15, 2012;  9:00 am - 12:00 pm
Where:      Calgary Sexual Health Centre, #304, 301-14 St NE
Fee:           $50.00 per person, including workshop materials




To register:
Contact Valerie Barr at 403.283.5580 ext. 317 or 
vbarr@calgarysexualhealth.ca.



Please note:  Level 'A' Alberta Social Work Continuing Education Credits are available for attendance at these workshops via a partnership with the Calgary Counselling Centre.  General public are also welcome to attend.

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Allies

"Attitudes about interspecies communication are the primary difference between western and indigenous philosophies. Even the most progressive western philosophers still generally believe that listening to the land is a metaphor. It's not a metaphor. It's how the world is."

-- Jeanette Armstrong quoted by Derrick Jensen in A Language Older Than Words

What does it mean to call a plant an ally?

As a poet and a witch, I believe that words used with precision have great power to shape someone's experience of the world.

The word "ally" comes from the Old French, "alier," meaning "to join in marriage." Originally a verb, the word was first used as a noun in the 14th century, meaning "kin."

It speaks of intimacy, tenderness, and trust.

A deep knowing.

It begins with coming to know a plant on its own terms.

Getting down on the ground and sitting with the plant. Coming back to it again and again.

Coming to know the way the light shines on the plant at different times of day. The scent of the soil where it grows. The way the air tastes around the plant.

Coming to know the body of the plant the way you would come to know the body of a lover. Knowing the feeling of its leaves and petals against your skin. Coming to love the ways it curves toward the sun.

And getting quiet enough to notice what he plant stirs in you. The subtle sensations in your body. The memories, emotions, images, scents, and snatches of music that come to you. The ways your dreams change.

Like a lover or a dear friend, a plant will teach you things you didn't know about yourself, new ways of being in your own body, new ways of being in the world.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that what you are learning and experiencing is all in your head -- or of thinking that to think of a plant in the same terms you would use to describe a beloved is to lie and think and speak in metaphor. If you treat any of this as a metaphor you will miss out on the chance to experience this other being in all of its magnificence -- and to see your own beauty and power from the perspective of the plant.

But when coming to know a plant truly mirrors in every way the process of falling in love, everything changes.

The idea of the world as sacred and alive opens into the experience of a world in which another consciousness embodied in a wildly different form from your own can speak directly to your heart.

The utilitarian view of the plant falls away. The answer to the question "What is Skunk Cabbage good for?" shifts from "Skunk Cabbage is good for calming spasms and clearing fluid from the lungs" to "Skunk Cabbage is good for setting roots deep in the mud, and melting its way through the ice to blossom forth in a gorgeous purple flower." Or "Skunk Cabbage is good for being Skunk Cabbage."

And the quality of the medicine and magic you work with the plant changes as well -- the plant goes from being an inert substance chosen according to memorized sets of indications and properties and correspondences to being an active participant in a shared working. New ways of working with the plant will emerge from your relationship.

And the relationship will demand of you consistency and honor. You will find yourself compelled to keep commitments you've made to spending time with the plant. And your respect for the plant will grow from an intellectual belief in the importance of avoiding overharvesting to a deep personal investment in seeing the plant flourish and defending the places it calls home.

Its not a path for the faint of heart. Like any intimate relationship, a true alliance with a plant will make you look at aspects of your life, patterns of thought and feeling and action that you would rather ignore. And unbound by human etiquette, plants, like gods, will not change the subject or gloss things over with niceties and half truths.

To deeply met and be deeply met by a consciousness that exists so far outside the ideas and beliefs and stories and ideologies and hang-ups of our culture is to be seduced into wandering out through a gap in the crumbling wall around our civilization, into the borderlands where the lines carefully drawn and habitually held between humanness and wildness begin to dissolve.

It is these borderlands where the greatest healing, the strongest magic, the deepest transformation occur.

Are you ready to be transformed?

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If you would like to follow these threads further, consider joining me for his course:

TALKING WITH THE PLANTS -- AN ONLINE COURSE WITH SEAN DONAHUE

APRIL 15 - SEPTEMBER 15

$300 if paid in full by March 1 -- $500 if paid after March 1

Plants are our ancestors and our relations -- and they have powerful medicine, magic, and wisdom to share with us.

Whether you are a newcomer to the worlds of herbalism, an herbalist looking to deepen the spiritual and intuitive elements of your work, or a magical practitioner looking to work more closely with green allies, this course will help you deepen your relationships with the plants growing around you.

Over the course of this journey you will learn simple practices to assist you in:

-- Respecting and honoring wild plants

-- Working with the heart as an organ of perception to communicate directly with plants

-- Divining magic and medicine from the forms of plants: an intuitive approach to the doctrine of signatures

-- What ecology teaches us about the medicine and magic of each plant

-- Dreaming with plants

-- Lunar cycles and plant medicine and magic

-- Working with a plant ally to reshape your life in alignment with your Will

Along the way you will have the support of a community of people engaging with plants in similar ways, and my personal guidance.

Thinking of coming along? E-mail me at seandonahuepoet@gmail.com

Suggested texts:

The Secret Teachings of Plants by Stephen Harrod Buhner

a field guide to the plants of your region

Monday, January 9, 2012

40th Anniversary celebrations kick off with "Miss Representation" screening

Help us kick off our 40th Anniversary celebrations!

Join us at the Globe Cinema on Jan 18 to watch the acclaimed film, Miss Representation, and then enjoy our panel discussion to follow.  Proceeds to support CSHC.





Phone and order your tickets today at (403) 283-5580, ext. 316.  Tickets will also be available at the door.

For more info about the acclaimed film "Miss Representation" and to watch the trailer, visit http://www.missrepresentation.org/the-film/


Friday, December 16, 2011

Tips to Protect Yourself from STIs

Even with the best intentions, people can still get Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)from their partner. But the more informed you are, the easier it is to protect yourself and your partner from STIs. 

Here are some tips to help you avoid STIs. Consider which will work for you:
  • always use barriers like condoms or dental dams
  • choose safer sexual activities like kissing, touching and massaging
  • avoid sex altogether
  • reduce the number of partners you have sex with
  • get tested regularly
  • ask your partner if they’ve been tested or to come get tested with you
  • know how to use condoms effectively
  • talk to your partner about safer sex (protection, testing, STI history)
  • avoid sharing needles
  • avoid getting unprofessional tattoos or piercings

STIs can have different effects depending on the person and which STI it is. And STIs can even be present but show NO SYMPTOMS. They only way to really know if you have an STI is to get tested. 

For information on STIs and where to get tested in Calgary, visit us at http://www.calgarysexualhealth.ca/the_basics_about_stis.html.

And to see what its like to go for STI testing, view our "How to Be a SexPert" podcast:



 

Friday, December 9, 2011

How to Talk with your Child about Sexuality

We live in a very sexual world.  There are messages about sex all around us - on the Internet, TV, radio.  People talk about it in locker rooms, at the mall, and in our own homes. And our kids hear it all.

But our kids don't get that much useful information from all this talk. 

We want our kids to have healthy and rewarding lives.  Teaching them about sex is an important aspect of helping them live a healthy life.  But for many of us its hard to talk about sex - especially with our own children. 

At the CHSC, we have many resources and workshops that can help you feel more comfortable with talking to your kids about sex.  And in the meantime, here are a few tips:

1. Start early.  Its best to begin as soon as they're born.  Start with basic knowledge such as learning the proper names of their body parts. Knowing their body and being comfortable talking about their body is an important first step.

2. All babies anc children explore their bodies. This is a natural and normal part of development. If we yell at them or slap their hands, they'll do it anyway - but they'll feel guilty about it. And they may learn to not trust us later in life when they're looking for guidance about other things.

3. When your 3-year-old asks "Where do babies come from?", you can keep your answers simple for now.  You could say something like "Babies grow in a special place inside the mother."  As the years, pass, you can add other details.

4. Kids aged 5 - 7 may be shy about asking questions, but they likely still have them! Find opportunities to ask them questions - maybe its asking them what they think about something you see on TV, or talking about a family friend who is pregnant. Have books on hand that you can read together to help you talk about sex.

5. Most preteens aged 8 - 12 are ready to know about sex and reproduction. They need to know about the signs of puberty and the changes that will happen to their bodies as they grow up. And they need to know how to keep themselves healthy and safe.  Keep the conversations going - find moments to spend time alone with them and talk.  Get books and pamphlets that you can read together, or that they can read on their own and then talk with you after.

6. Teens aged 13 - 18 need to learn how to say "no" and to understand what "safer sex" is. They need to know how to have relationships with other people without getting hurt, or without hurting other people.  You could ask questions such as "Are you being pressured to have sex?", "Do you know how to protect yourself from pregnancy and infections?", "How will you tell them what your limits are?".

For more help with talking to your kids about sex, give us a call at 403-283-5580 or visit us online at http://www.calgarysexualhealth.ca/what_do_i_say.html.


And for a light-hearted look at having "The Talk", check out this hilarious video of Julia Sweeney describing one such experience with her 8 year old daughter.